I have been sexually active for 8 years but I am new to masturbation. I bought a Rabitt Pearl a while back and it is wonderful. I have no problems bringing my self to a vaginal climax with it. However When I try to bring myself to orgasm with clit stimuli I always stop myself. It feels so good that I cant take it. I start shaking and jerking and when I get close it feels like i have to pee. So I stop myself. I cant figure out why I do this. I have read the topics about masturbation and female ejaculation and maybe Im a squirter I don't know bc I wont let myself experience it. I wish I could though. Any advice?
ladybunny
Posted: 23 Sep 20:31
If you do turn out to be a squirter, just remember there's nothing wrong with it. I was very cautious about it for years, not knowing what my partners would think, until I met my current one. He was so enthusiastic that he'll spend time bringing me to multiple orgasms to see it.
If you aren't well, kudos to you, you get to save yourself the extra towels in the laundry :D
Rouge
Posted: 23 Sep 20:31
> When I try to bring myself to orgasm with clit stimuli I always stop myself. I start shaking and jerking and when I get close it feels like i have to pee. So I stop myself. I cant figure out why I do this.
It is important to know that the clitoris is like a penis albeit in miniature (and without a Urethra). As such all those very sensitive nerve endings in the comparatively large Glans are bunched tightly together in the tip of the Clitoris. This makes the Clitoris extremely sensitive and responsive.
Shaking and jerking are natural responses. Enjoy the sensations and learn to incorporate the added physical tension to enhance the approaching orgasm. If the intensity bothers you, try backing off for a few seconds and then continuing on. Also, as fantastic as a mechanical vibrator is, please DO NOT rely on it. Learn to reach the brink of an orgasm with your fingers. You must make this transition and learn to adjust to the less intense touch of your/his fingers. Learning to use your fingers should help reduce the intensity that results from using the vibrator. You'll be using fingers a lot more than a vibrator when it comes to making love, so please make this transition. (Vibrators are great to use on occasion and perhaps for the initial learning how to orgasm.)
The urge to pee is a common response and a false signal, especially if you know your bladder is empty. Just continue on and you'll generally find your orgasm on the other side. Within a short span of time the sensation of needing to pee will go away once the pathways between those sensitive nerve endings and the pleasure center in your brain have been firmly established. To do this, keep on masturbating and learning what works when and what doesn't.
> It feels so good that I cant take it.
As for the Clitoris becoming too sensitive, when this happens, just switch tactics and continue to stimulate the area indirectly. You can do this by folding the labia over the tip and rubbing/massaging/fingering it through them. Another avenue is to involve the shaft of the Clitoris. Even though it is buried beneath the skin, you will find it erect and begging to be rubbed. Try rubbing it with the pad(s) of the finger(s) or rubbing lengthwise using one finger along each side--whatever works and feels good in the moment.
Once you are able to climax regularly and consistently, when you have a boyfriend, you can then show him what works and how by guiding his hand over a few sessions until he learns to mimic your movements. Providing feedback is also key. All this and more have been discussed in articles listed in the Index. Please begin reading. Knowledge is empowering.
> I have read the topics about masterbation and female ejaculation and maybe Im a squirter I dont know bc I wont let myself experiance it. I wish I could though.
Do not worry about being a "squirter" or not. If it happens, it is a great addition; if not, no big deal. Not many women squirt. There are several articles listed in the Index that discuss the female "O" from different perspectives, including learning how.
dancingdoc2
Posted: 23 Sep 20:31
