Performance Anxiety
I'm 23 years old and I'm having some issues in the bedroom. The first thing is that I can't get 100% or even close to 100% erect anymore, that's both in masturbation and during sex. But the main thing issue that I'm having is that when try to have sex with my gf, I Cum prematurely and then I can't get back up for 15-20 minutes. I think it may be caused by performance anxiety because I keep worrying about cuming too quickly and not being able to please the way I should be able to. What kind of things could I do to fix this?
OP: MrTarheel 09/02/2012
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Young men often have both anxiety and premature ejaculation - you're not alone in this. But a refractory time of 15-20 minutes is normal. No worries there either. You may want to consult a urologist about the lack of firmness or 100% erect as you call it but first make sure you are fully hydrated prior to sex and see if that helps. Males should have the same mindset toward engaging in sex as they do toward engaging in active sports or heavy manual labor. Same situation as far as your body is concerned.
We have written extensively on anxiety elsewhere, please look those threads up.
Also whilst waiting for your equipment to come back online, do some bodyworshipping, or turn the proceedings over to your partner - you don't always have to lead, ya know. Sex is much more than inserting tab A into slot B. There are two threads on this: Body Worship How To and The Program - also available through the Index.
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