OP: Cunnilingus Techniques

Men don't take hints too well ( at least the ones that I have been with) you need to take his hand his face, what ever and say: "There, right there don't stop" and he will listen. Guys don't know they aren't us, so we have to teach them and be strait forward, the last thing you need to do when you are close, is think about how you are going to sugar coat, "don't move or don't stop" just say it. you and he will be glad you did. Outside of the intimate moment you might want to talk about what turns you on to the point of orgasm, for both you and him to know about each other. It's good to know the tricks, but that is with time, teaching, trying, learning and discussion.

yetagainsorrows

Posted: 05 Oct 04:50

Don't be frustrated if she doesn't cum right away, especially if she's younger. First of all, girls can be inherently very insecure about this, to the point that they will stop themselves from enjoying it because they are so worried about what the guy will think. So help her out, tell her you love going down on her, that she tastes so good, etc. Tell her it turns you on. Don't lie, but be sure to tell her what you like about it and keep reassuring her about this. It can takes girls a while to be able to cum from oral, but the pleasure can still be very intense. If she doesn't cum from it, that's fine. A good way to help her cum is to finger her while sucking on her clit (gently). This way she can get the harder penetration too.

In a relationship, please be sure to try and keep the blow job to eating out ratio as equal as possible. I love going down on my boyfriend. And my boyfriend enjoys going down on me. But I think sometimes guys just kind of....I don't know, don't really think about it...and they don't do it unless specifically asked. Don't make her ask. Depending on how much she enjoys it, make it a fairly usual part of your routine.

Some people find this gross, but my boyfriend and I are very close, and I get turned on when he kisses me during oral on me. Sometimes when he's fingering he'll make me lick his fingers too. If you guys enjoy this, it can be a fun addition and makes it hotter.

clare33

Posted: 05 Oct 04:50

The orgasm I get from oral sex is very different than the orgasm I get from penetration....
I like it when my BF licks me like an ice cream cone
]I like it when he blows soft breath on me
I love it when he flicks his tongue fast over my clit
I like it a lot when he sucks on my clit, using different pressure & angles[*]I really like it when he smacks my clit with his tongue or fingers
I love it when he penetrates my anus with his finger while licking/sucking my clit
I like when he licks my anus
I love it when he penetrates my vagina with his tongue, while penetrating my anus with one finger & using his other hand to stimulate my clit
I like it when he asks if/how I like/want it
I love when he comes up to kiss me right afterwards[*]I love it when he penetrates me with his penis while I'm cumming from clitoral stimulation!

Maribelle

Posted: 05 Oct 04:50

My friend is very talented with his tongue and takes every opportunity to prove it. For me, just the thought of what he can do to me gets me all hot and wet in a hurry. When he settles himself between my legs it's like he goes into a trance. He'll slowly stroke my thighs as he lets his breath ghost over my mound, tickling and teasing the hair down there. Then he'll gently plant hot, wet kisses on my inner thighs (it's my undoing) before he takes his sweet time licking, suckling, and teasing me into a frenzy before he really lets me cum. But he never stops after I have my first orgasm. He'll keep going and push me up into the next one and the next one. By the time he's satisfied that I'm satisfied I'm a quivering, exhausted mess. Not that I'm complaining of course.;)

Tarnished_Halo

Posted: 05 Oct 04:51

Again it's been said before, but every woman is different. As a general rule the my advice for going down is....

1. SLOW DOWN! If you are over powering before she is ready, she will get numb and you'll be down there for a week. Women have to build to orgasm so slow down and get comfortable.

2. TEASE, TEASE TEASE! Women feel a loss of control when you are down there and some even feel distant. Teasing does a ton to build excitement (see above) and keeps things light. There is also a level of communication to teasing that women enjoy. It reminds them that they aren't all alone in the room and makes it easier to give up control because it is obvious you have it.

3. Spread lips to expose the clitoris fully. The more surface area you have to work with, the more she will feel.

4. Add action, particularly fingers on the G-spot as you go. Build your performance. Don't just go as hard as you can just because you feel like she needs to kick it into gear. Keep something in reserve for when she actually says "I'm gonna cum." Being able to start rubbing the g-spot rapidly once she reaches that moment can often trigger multiple orgasms.

5. SLOW DOWN!!! Enjoy your woman. Don't feel pressure to bring her to orgasm quickly and remind her not to feel pressured either (that makes it worse). Relax and even take a break if necessary. Proceed as if you are enjoying your favorite meal on a lazy day instead of wolfing down a burger when you are starving to death.

e_room_matt

Posted: 05 Oct 04:51

I actually use a variety of techniques so that it never gets boring for either of us. Some I'll start off with just a few licks right up and down and then do a little penetration with my tongue. Then after a little of that just move up into the middle. I'll suck on the lips a little and do some flicks around the clit. This gets her enticed and starting to jump a little. Then once I can tell that she's starting to feel it, I'll begin to roll my tongue and do firm licks along the clit. Depending on her body language sometimes to get her really going, I'll use my hands and spread her and do a lot of firm licks and just keep going with that.
It depends on your girl's preferences but I will also sometimes try to finger her as well as lick. It gives a crazy double sensation for her. You just have to keep trying multiple techniques to see what she enjoys the most. One other technique I use which most people would never think of is I actually go in horizontally instead of vertically, if you understand what I mean. This technique has proven to let cover a larger area of her then the typical vertical licks. When you're going in horizontally I am able to hit her clit, lips, and the center of her vagina all at the same time, which drives her crazy. usually causing her to grab my head and pull it in hard and closer. You're more than welcome to try these and see what it does, for mine she gets multiple orgasms, and please let me know how it works out for you.

med4ladies

Posted: 05 Oct 04:51

First time poster! Whenever I see the topic of cunnilingus, I'm instantly interested as it is one my favorite topics. :)

Anyway, considering at the topic at hand, I thought I'd bring up some points:

1. Enjoy yourself and the person you are with.
Yes orgasms are wonderful. Yes, it's wonderful bringing your partner to orgasm. Yes! YES! YES! (Sorry) However, please remember to enjoy yourself and your partner. Orgasm is only one of many aspects of good sex. So, if your only focus and stress is on bringing your partner to orgasm and nothing else, then (imho) you're missing the point and too often you will *not* bring your partner to orgasm.

Enjoy yourself and enjoy your partner. That should be your #1 "task" during sex.

2. There is no one way or "sure fire method."
It doesn't exist. All of these oral sex "guides" are nothing more than that. Guides. Partner satisfaction is not about following a list of ingredients or instruction manual. Guides can be helpful, but remember that there isn't a one way of doing things.

3. Learn to tease.
Not sure if there's an eloquent way of saying this, but it's usually better to be wanted than to get someone to want you. In other words, (editors note, please see point #2 again), don't go directly for the clit or g-spot, etc.! Make her WANT you to go for her clit. Hope this makes sense.

Another thing, beyond her clit there's 99.99% of the rest of her body. EXPLORE IT. Besides (at least for me), one of the hottest things in the world to hear is for a woman to "beg you" to touch her clitoris/whatever.

4. Listen and follow her movements.
I sometimes think of sex much like ballroom dancing (not club dancing). In ballroom dancing, you have to learn how to lead and follow your partner. Sex is very similar to this. Learn to sense what turns your partner on and off. This takes time and practice and help you overall besides just oral.

On a side note, I think everyone should learn how to ballroom dance (any type). Why? Because it teaches you and your partner through trial and error, how to lead and follow. Additionally, it teaches each other how to read our body movements, emotions, etc. without speaking, thereby making things much more instinctual.

Finally, any man that claims they can get any woman "off" at any time is just fooling themselves. Enjoy yourself and the person you're with. That's the most important thing of all.

dastranger

Posted: 05 Oct 04:51

Nice and slow is the key. I have found out that i like different things from different guys so ask the lady what she likes. I love tongue action up/down, left/right etc. just don;t pull on it when i'm cummin. Talking it out is the best way to know what a women want from you.

Cool

Posted: 05 Oct 04:51

That's my most often used "recipe" to get my woman to a good orgasm by oral sex, it's divided in 5 gradual "phases", which you can skip or not accordingly to what you want to get (i.e a fast orgasm or a slow intense one...)

phase 1: caressing and kissing) This is not actual oral sex, during this phase i use to kiss her starting by the arms and breast, then slowly going down to stomach, butt and legs. Then I start licking and kissing legs heading towards vagina

phase 2: arousing) When I'm ready to go down I start kissing, licking and sucking the area between the legs and the vagina, being careful to not touch it, as I only want her to get really aroused. In the final seconds of this phase i allow my nose to rub on her, to see the situation

phase 3: make her want me to not stop): Here it comes oral. Now I lightly lick her (external) labias, without pushing my tongue inside i limit myself to lick slowly and kiss her labias, then take them in my mouth and slowly let them go. I lick on the entire vagina, from the hole to the clit, slowly and lightly

when she starts to moan and keep my head pushed on her

phase 4: straight to it) Now I want her to come, an I often get it in no time (from 1 to 4 minutes). I do it by pushing my tongue between her inner labias and licking her clit (WHITOUT exposing it, just putting in my tongue) in circles, changing speed, rotation and radius (from clit-only to entire labias) according to her moans and muscle movements (and to what I want to do, if a quick come or a slow cum) until she cums.

phase 5: it's not over) Now i please her by licking lightly her entire vagina for a short while then putting my mouth on her hole and sucking, as to suck her humors, she really likes it.

den2k

Posted: 05 Oct 04:51

I just love it when a man teases to start with and gently licks around the edges of my vagina and sucks my lips. I love the burning sensation I get just inside my vagina when I am so desperate for him to stick his tongue inside me.
The more a man enjoys licking the more a woman will enjoy it too. We can always tell if it is a chore and that is no fun for us.

I have always wanted to be eaten by a woman. I have heard so many times that being licked by another woman is fantastic so I am desperate to find out if it is true. All in the name of research oh course! ;):p

Also, I know some people don't like it but for me, being rimmed is just so sexy and gets me horny just thinking about it. As long as the woman is clean and willing, it could be amazing for both partners. It is surprising just how many blokes love to do it to a woman.

RedDevil

Posted: 05 Oct 04:51

I like for my bf to gently rub on my nipples as he is licking my clit. A guy reached up and rubbed my nipples one time and I've loved it ever since. If you have a tongue ring, PLEASE know how to use it. I didn't think anything of it, but it's like two things going on at the same time! NO, I'm not talking about the ones that vibrate either...I don't like talking...That's a turn off for me, and looking up to ask me "Does it feel good?" should indicate that you don't know what you are doing, or shut up and get back to it. Don't over stimulate the clit. Some men seem to think that all women like their clits to be sucked off as hard as possible for some unknown reason. At times, sucking it hard can work, but I guess it depends on the person's level of mastery of that. Had that done to me one time, and before I had the chance to process the thought of "He is sucking my clit too hard", it felt great...My clit was tender/sore for a week after that, but he made me cummmmmm a few times, so all was well.

BlackBBW

Posted: 05 Oct 04:51

For many women, any stimulation of the anal sphincters greatly increases strength or orgasm. Those are among the strongest muscles that are involved in the release of sexual tension. Hence the desire of many have the anus stimulated during cunnilingus.

Brandye

Posted: 05 Oct 04:52

Have to agree with RedDevil. I love cunnilingus and I'm sure my partner's have enjoyed it even more, being able to tell how much I was into it myself. When you have a guy who really adores doing it, the whole experience is more pleasurable and your woman knows you'll be down there as long as she wants.

Listening skills are useful. It's always helpful if you can try to respond to what she enjoys, rather than stick to any 'technique', which an ex might have loved but the current partner doesn't!

Rimming - I'm not that bothered about receiving it as a bloke. I always do it to any girl I'm with and so far, not one has refused. I think once they realise I want to do it, then they just relax and really get into it. It can be a nice interlude between orgasms or simply part of the overall oral session. Very sexy when she's standing up and I'm kneeling :-)

silkytongue

Posted: 05 Oct 04:52

I love it when a woman want to snog during/after cunniningus, tasting her own jiuce. turns me right on. comments ladies?

(Snog = brit for deep kiss with tongues)

Posted: 25 Nov 15:59