very delayed erection with new partner
so I have separated from my wife of several years a few months ago and never had any problem getting an erection with her, i started talking to an old friend from childhood and have visited her a few times and I feel very attracted to her but those times I've been with her I've had a hard time getting an erection, granted she is very driven, we barely have a few minutes of foreplay when she's ready for intercourse and I am used to take my time with my now ex-wife, could it be anxiety? stress? I've reached erection with her and have had sex but even so I've felt like im not at the hardest point and is embarrassing, she is starting to believe that I don't find her attractive enough.
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Both anxiety and stress could be at play. Lots of people require more warm up time... makes things a little tricky when you hook up with someone who likes to go straight to it. Been there myself.
The only thing you can really do is communicate. Either they are willing to work with you to find common ground - or they're not. If they're not - they're probably not the best match for you.