OP: Thoughts on 'slutty' women?

Man, I don't mean to sound harsh in the title thread, but there are many of them out there. Women who don't believe in having sexual relations with just one person. There are lots of women out there who would have sex with as many and any guy they lay their eyes upon. But it seems to me that most nymphos are beautiful perfect looking women who enjoy showing off their body to the whole world. There are women out there who is very addicted to sex. Why? Maybe it's because they get bored of doing the same body everyday and they want different tastes in men. There are many reasons why women become slutty and nymphotic.

I've ran into women like this before and I tell ya, it's no fun. I don't mind being close friends with these type of women, but I would not go as far as having sex with them even if they asked it.

I'm the type of guy that would have a serious relationship with one person only. Sex maybe fun, but one night stands with a random person is not my thing.

I'm just simply wondering what are the guys opinion are on these type of women? The women in this forum can answer the question too if you want.

Greendale

Posted: 02 Oct 19:47

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Well you know, it works both ways.
There's plenty of guys out there like that too.
They're just not viewed as a "slut".

If you want to know why there are so many women out there who want to sleep with a lot of people, well, why are there so many men out there that don't want to settle down?
Why are the women who want to go out and have fun viewed as sluts and the men not?
Why can the men go out and have all the fun and the women are supposed to "settle down"?

Just something to think about.

thetease13

Posted: 02 Oct 19:47


Tease hits the high points.

Your ignorance starts with not understanding the real meaning of nymphomania. The rest of your post is misogynist and full of stereotypes. And poorly written.

Brandye

Posted: 02 Oct 19:47


Nymphomania is a layperson's term used to label a woman whose sex drive or sexual activity is subjectively deemed too high. This is not a scientifically meaningful term because there are no specific criteria defining how much sexual desire or activity is too much.

The clinical conditions that include the concept of high levels of sexual desire and/or activity are hypersexuality and sexual addiction or compulsivity.

The central features of these disorders are that sexual activity is an insatiable need, often interfering with other areas of everyday functioning; sex is impersonal, with no emotional intimacy; and despite frequent orgasms, sexual activity is generally not satisfying.

The label of nymphomania is used in a pejorative and derogatory manner, almost exclusively in reference to women. To many men, the idea of a woman with a greater sex drive than their own is somewhat threatening, so they may use the label to preserve their own egos by "proving" that the woman is abnormal.

Similarly, men with sexual dysfunction might accuse their partners of being oversexed in an effort to hide their own fears or sense of inadequacy, just as some women who object to the frequency of their partner's sexual advances might accuse him of being oversexed.

The difference is that the double standard which exists in our society congratulates a man who is highly sexed and has many partners, calling him a "stud", whereas a woman with the same behavior is often called a "nympho", which carries a negative connotation.

demonbuttercup

Posted: 02 Oct 19:48


I agree with thetease and with the other posts. Why not title your thread “comments on people who like one night stands”
Then you might acutally get some proper discussion if you really do want to understand the issue of one night stands and not settling down.

If people want different things, to settle down or not, then that is fine as long as it’s all done safely (safe sex) and people are upfront and honest with one another.

There is no need to resort to name calling just because we are not all the same.

Sorry if you feel attacked by all the answers, but I think pehaps people should be previewing their posts before submitting them.

BabyBlue

Posted: 02 Oct 19:48


I'm not going to take the high road on this thread.

Rather, I want to know where are these women and how do I meet them? I happen to admire a woman who enjoys sex and have often thought there aren't enough of them around!

WallyLlama

Posted: 02 Oct 19:48


Me! Pick me Wally!!

Really Greendale being a nympho is a medical conditon that is actually very sad.

Being sexually liberated and knowing what you want and going and getting it is a whole other thing.

Tessie

Posted: 02 Oct 19:49


is it settling down or simply being more selective of who you're screwing? I don't think it's fair to attack greendale for his comment. the only reason he's only looking at the one side of the issue is because that's the one that concerns him. he doesn't really have to worry about the guys out there that sleep around with as many women as they can. He is personally more concerned with the women that do that because that affects him.

It may have just been because it was impressioned upon me when i discovered sex and learned about it from my mom, but to me, sex is something a little more sacred, and comes weighted with major emotions. It may be just because i'm new in the game, but as i stand right now, i don't think i could do someone just for the physical pleasure of it. there's too much emotional attachment for me in it. I also don't like the idea of my sex partner having other sex partners. Ideally, i prefer my relationships to be very exclusive. but that's just my thought on things.

in response to some other things greendale was saying, not all of the promiscuous women out there are bombshells like you believe. it's just that the others are more skillful in hiding their promiscuity. As an example I will describe my girlfriend. When i met her, she had this kind of innocent vibe. not like she was a virgin or anything, but definitely not like she was the sleep around kind of girl. not in conversation or anything did i get that vibe. it was only after we had been going out for a month or more that she made a comment one night when one of her teammates was going out dressed like a tramp, and i said something about her looking for a one night stand. At this comment my girlfriend threw out there "oh, i would bet i've had more one night stands than her." Wow. that was the only thought that went through my head. So that's a prime example of how misleading someone can be. I could bet that the most prudish looking person could very well be a casual sex enthusiast at heart.

vagabondprince

Posted: 02 Oct 19:49


It’s not Greendale question itself that is wrong, but the name calling that is wrong.
If I wanted to find out more about, for example, what people thought about gay marriage I would ask “Gay marriage, your thoughts” NOT “faggots/queers/bum bashers, should they get married?" Greendale can ask about why women have one night stands without resorting to name calling.
To me it show just how acceptable it is to call women names and that is a shame.

And I agree, not all women who have regular one night stands necessarily look like they do, in fact I’m sure that lots of people are very discreet about their behaviour

BabyBlue

Posted: 02 Oct 19:49


But, why single out the women?
There are plenty of men who do it to.
We're not attacking him.
We're attacking the use of words. We're attacking the stereotypes. Why is it "ok" for a man to do it, but when a woman does it, she's mislabeled as a "nympho" or a slut or a whore or whatever.

And yes, in a way he does have to worry about the guy with one night stands.
He has admitted that he is attracted to both men and women and is pretty much bisexual.

thetease13

Posted: 02 Oct 19:49


you're right. i'm in college, so i'm too used to hearing and reading all that base name calling and misogyny, so i kind of overlooked it as just normal. so after reanalyzing, the simple word ignorance comes to mind when trying to explain where he's coming from on this issue.

vagabondprince

Posted: 02 Oct 19:49


Very well said BabyBlue. Resorting to name calling will almost always get someone to take offense.

I also don't have a problem that Greedale would want to only discuss women in his thread topic. I don't think it has to be gender neutral. We can start another thread about the difference on how men and women are preceived when they sleep around. If he wants to keep the topic to women that should be fine just don't use such language that takes away from the subject.

Tessie

Posted: 02 Oct 19:50


> Your ignorance starts with not understanding the real meaning of nymphomania. The rest of your post is misogynist and full of stereotypes. And poorly written.

I knew it wasn't the best written but you do know where I'm getting at in this thread. I'm talking about women who sleep around, but thanks for correcting everyone else in this thread. I know "slut" is a harsh word, but can't think of anything else to call women that sleep around.

Greendale

Posted: 02 Oct 19:50


But why view them as a slut?
Just because a woman likes to have sex doesn't mean she's a whore, a slut, or a "nympho".

Why can the man like sex and that be viewed as "normal" but if a woman likes it, she's called all sorts of names and it's viewed as "wrong" or "abnormal"?

thetease13

Posted: 02 Oct 19:51


Dammit.....I Like sex and i like it ALOT! and im proud to say so and dont feel the need to hide my desires!
so there!
Themis

Themis

Posted: 02 Oct 19:51


i stated my opinion earlier about sex being something that drags along a reasonably large amount of emotional attachment with it. dealing with some issues this weekend has made me think twice about how true that realy is...what i'm kinda wondering now is if my original opinion on the topic is really reasonable at all, or if i should try to get out there and enjoy sex for what it is, a physical activity. Thoughts? opinions?

vagabondprince

Posted: 02 Oct 19:51


I think that it is a personal choice. Some people wouldnt feel comfortable sleeping with people whom they could not form a close relationship with. But if you feel that you could handle sleeping with someone and yet not see them on a regular basis then i think you should go for it. But like i said i think it really comes down to the types of values one holds....
Theres nothing wrong with it and those whom say different do so becasue their belifs contradict with yours....but its not their life, its yours so you might as well enjoy it the way you want
Well anyways thats just my POV.........

Themis

Posted: 02 Oct 19:51


I've got to go with the sexually liberated here... although, Rawbob makes me feel downright prudish at times...lol.

I don't feel that there is anything intrinsically wrong with someone who enjoys sex with many different people. It's like anything else... it depends on the person and how they handle the situation. I think as long as you are honest about the situation (as in, "I like you; I'm only interested in sex; let's go home and f@$#."), it carries no harmful emotional side-effects.

I've been with my fair share of lovers and I've had quite a few one night stands. I've never, however, felt the need to cheat or lie when I'm in a commited relationship. It's all in doing what a particular situation calls for.

oberon

Posted: 02 Oct 19:52


One thing you gotta say about Greendale - his posts usually generate a lot of interest and response. LOL

As has been suggested in several replies, much of this is about individual choice... and I, for one, think individuals should be allowed choices without immediate condemnation, particularly on a board like this.

Speaking of choices... Tess, you can put your hand down now and get over here. You have been selected.

WallyLlama

Posted: 02 Oct 19:52