OP: Tough partner

My wife is a tough sexual partner. It’s very difficult for me to engage her/arouse her. She has shut off the typical avenues of foreplay. For example, she doesn’t like kissing because she says she always breaks out afterwards. She is not a fan of cunnilingus at all. She really loves it when I touch her or massage her but this has become an asexual activity, more done for the sake of comfort than anything sexual. I only seem to have a verbal requests at my disposal, but there’s something so cringe and unsexy about “hey, think we can have sex tonight?” When I do reach for her nipples or vagina, she shuts them away like a clam. And then, if she finally agrees, she has this “let’s it get over with” attitude. In fact, last time she consented, she said those very words; I was so turned off that I got up out of bed and (angrily) started my day (it was supposed to be a morning sesh).

Any ideas for any of it? I would love to know of some alternatives to kissing/touching/asking as part of foreplay. Thanks for your help.

Posted: 01 Dec 14:03