The purpose of this post is to allow Sexinfo101 members and guests the opportunity to ask a gay person any question that may have been in the back of his/her mind. This is about information and education. Since i belive folks are born gay, this really isn't the place to have a theological discussion or moral crossfire discussions. That said, DON'T BE SHY about your questions. Trust me, i've probaby heard them all, and i'm not squeemish. I'll debunk myths, and hopefull give you insight into gay folk - i think you'll find we're not much different from most!
Rawbob
Posted: 30 Sep 04:35
One more, I consider my self a bisexual woman. Although I have never been able to take a relationship with a woman seriously. I defiantly like to have sex with woman and have. I find them really beautiful and tend to look at woman more during porn. My question to you is, do you think that is considered bisexual?
Lovelyand18
Posted: 30 Sep 04:54
my gf has felt the same way, she has had sex with a women once. but it wasnt a good experience for her.
She still finds women attractive, and she gets turned on by watching "the L word" and yet im glad to report she is very happily involved with me. For her it was more about falling for who a person is and not what private parts they got. she just didnt want to be close minded to any opportunities of finding a great relationship
there is some kind of sexuality scale that goes from 1-10. they describe each number and its a good way eliviate any sexual confusion if you can find enough relative information associated to a number than you have some grounds and comparrison to how you kind of fit in. odviously life isn't as simple as a 1-10 scale but if you need a little extra clarification it may help... google for it
madeye
Posted: 30 Sep 04:54
I know what you're saying and I definitely wish it were more of the latter, but the situation's getting better. There's been a number of films where a charecter just happens to be gay but is not defined by cliched charecteristics. I think BROKEBACK MOUNTAIN was an important film in that regard . . . two men who are "straight" in every other way except their love and sexuality for each other.
For so many years it was taboo to have a gay charecter at all in mainstream movies or tv, then it was all right if it was a funny stereotype. Now it's working toward a more balanced representation. It'll take time but it's getting there.
As for the guy you were describing, there's no denying a lot of gay men are like that, but there's also every other stripe as well. I still think the majority of us fall into the "wouldn't know we were unless we told you" camp.
DVDBear
Posted: 30 Sep 04:55
To answer your question... Sometimes, very tired. However, I think I can add to what DVD says with a theory of my own. Pardon me while I go all Rod Serling.... Imagine if you will...
That you grow up never really feeling as if you fit in. You just don't seem to like the same things that all the guys around you profess to like. Even if you like sports, cars or other "masculine" interests, you never really feel like part of the group. Then...
You find a group where you are free to completely express yourself. You really feel for the first time as if you are allowed to be who you really are. Wouldn't you do the things that would make you more a part of the group? Even if you don't knowingly change, you tend to emulate those around you.
Now, gay culture has a long history of "camp". It comes from not being able to publicly discuss your relationships (hence the pronoun changes). It also comes from wanting to distance yourself from being straight. To quote the tired old slogan... "I'm here! I'm queer! Get used to it!" It's that in your face attitude.
While I don't share his glowing admiration for "Brokeback Mountain", I think DVDBear is correct in that we are beginning to see this change. As gay men have more role models and less need to hide who they are, there is less need for the "flaming queen" personas. Something some of us refused to go along with anyway... LOL. (Yes, I CAN camp... but I can also TURN IT OFF! :D )
Just as a sidenote (on the movie topic)... If you want to see a great "gay" movie, then I suggest "Big Eden". It stars Arye Gross and is wonderfully cliche-free as well as just a darn good movie.
oberon
Posted: 30 Sep 04:55
I really liked the way six feet under does a great job of showing that yes these two guys are different cause they are gay. and yet they still made sure the sexuality didnt define who they were. Cause even though they have a different sexuality i was able to see personality traits that i can relate to and connected with. after 5 seasons of the show i cared about them as much as much as any straight couple on the show.
so i really think that has helped the gay male image i have, really thats all i got to go on right now.
Brokeback mountain was a great movie. and a good example of a media gay reality check.
but i cant help but notice now that every single romance comedy includes the lead female role to having an uber flamboyant gay best friend who usually works in the fashion industry.
And i also get a sense from my sister and gf that they almost enjoy gay people for the novelty of it and not as much for the people who they are past the sexuality. i get a sense of "oh my god i have to become friends with the gay guy"
it just seems like society is at a weird transition about all of this. yeah its great that people are starting to accept the evolutionary shift of human nature. But as good as that change is to the way it was before i cant think your happy having all this fan-girls surrounding befriending you for the novelty of it instead of for who you are as a person.
madeye
Posted: 30 Sep 04:56
Hey, I don't flame and I don't "glow!":D Although I personally liked BROKEBACK I was mainly referring to it's impact on society at large. It was a hit mainstream movie that didn't get marginalized as a "gay film" and relegated to art house showings. I've talked to many people who seem to have a more nuanced perception of what being "gay" is about after having seen it. I haven't seen BIG EDEN, but it's going into my Netflix queue. It very well might be the better film but didn't reach the masses like BROKEBACK.
DVDBear
Posted: 30 Sep 04:58
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Posted: 25 May 11:12
Sure! We welcome questions from even those outside the LGBT+ community. We're here to answer any questions you might have about the LGBT+ community.
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