12 years in — how do you bring up wanting more?
My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have a good relationship, we still like each other, we still make each other laugh. But somewhere along the way, sex became this very predictable thing. Same routine, same time, same everything.
I want to change that but I don't know how to bring it up without it sounding like a complaint. He's not doing anything wrong exactly. It's more that we stopped exploring. We got comfortable and now comfortable feels a bit boring.
Has anyone navigated this conversation successfully? How did you start it without your partner hearing "you're not enough"?
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I don't have the answer to this because I never figured it out in my own marriage. But I will say that the fact that you're even thinking about how to bring it up means you care about his feelings. That's not nothing.
If I could go back I think I'd just be honest. "I love what we have but I want us to try some new things." Short, direct, not about what's wrong but about what could be fun.