Her vagina is too tight for sex
My marriage is in question because I have not been able to penetrate my wife since our son was born five years ago. We dated for 8 years beofre marrying, and although I am rather large, we were able to have normal relations until the baby was born. We have great oral sex, but the real thing is missing. I cannot even insert a finger. Can someone help?
frustratedmale
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I wonder if the attending gynocologist did a tuck job when your child is born. Ask your wife about this. Ask the gynocologist This is the first time I have ever heard of a woman being tighter AFTER childbirth. I don't know if a vaginal tuck job can be undone, but if you are, as you say large, and had no problem before the child but now can barely insert a finger I would guess that the gyno overdid it.
dlb
There was no tuck job. She delivered via C-Section. I am 6-5 and she is 5-1 and she says sex was painful even before this problem arose. I am really frustrated and want to be inside her constantly. The intimacy thing is important to me and this has been missing. She does not like to talk about sex or about this problem. Once she starts, she gets really excited, but getting her there is a chore. Her Gynacologist said she was tight, but obviously they have not discussed the problem.
frustratedmale
I have been with a few women who were notably tighter than the usual. They all stretched out after a while. It sounds as though your wife tighter than tight. I think you should visit the gynecologist together to find out what can be done.
Obviously your concern and attraction for her go beyond the sexual so man to man I recommend that you keep plenty of physical affection in your relationship-not necessarily sexual, just touching, hugging, caressing, etc.
Don't waste anymore time. Get yourselves to a gynecologist who can make recommendations about how to overcome this.
dlb
Five years? Has she chosen to not seek medical assistance?
The two most likely causes are a poorly done episiotomy, requiring proper examination and correction, or a psychological issue for her, requiring therapy. In these cases, the physical needs to be addressed first. She must start with her gyn. If she refuses, it is a different game for both of you.
Brandye