If her fiance suffers from low self-esteem and she tells him - he will be destroyed. In our culture, they all do. Being "man enough" can be a terrible curse.
In any case, the marriage is off. He will be busy blaming her, blaming himself, recriminations, heartbreak, this friend's now gone, not trusting himself or her afterwards.
So she can get a pat on the head and 'forgiveness' - to make herself feel better?
"He forgave me and I'm so grateful. Now I can forgive myself."
Forgiving herself involves her accepting that she is only human and that she does not need his forgivness in order to forgive herself. Each time she resists similar temptations in the future will help her improve herself. Standing by him from through thick and thin will also help. Loyalty, devotion, love and even trust isn't just between her legs. By accepting the burden of her guilt, quietly and privately and by not making herself a blood sacrifice, she will become a better person than she may have become had she not screwed up.
I know how it is, Int. This may well be the most difficult thing she will ever have to do - all the more reason for her to do it.
Posted: 06 Oct 20:25