I cheated while black-out drunk.... what now?
Hi everyone,
I have a problem thats been on my mind for the last couple weeks. Currently I am living with my fiance of two years and his best friend who moved in with us. One day after getting back from class I was stressed and tired so I started to drink. My roomie decided to join me saying that I shouldnt drink alone so we watched movies together.
I dont remember anything out of the second movie, I was in really bad shape. I remember little flashes of him and I having sex, or at least him doing things to me. When I talked to him about it the next day, at first he said he didnt remember anything, but later on he said he remembered details and that he was really sorry for what happened.
I didnt mean for anything to happen. I dont even know what happened, but we agreed that it might not be the best idea to tak to my fiance and that we should act like nothing ever did.
I dont know what to do. I love my fiance more than anything and want to spend the rest of our lives together. I'm afraid of telling him because I dont know if he will ever trust me again.
Please tell me what you think, and if you have any advice or any idea as to what i should do.
SallyD
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The pros don't always know everything. Dr. Phil gives a lot of advice on marriages, but he's getting a divorce, isn't he? I like to hear multiple points of view on a subject, not just someone who has read a lot of books on it. That's why they have drug counselors who have been addicts. You can't learn some things in a book.
tristannf
I’m sorry that I am making such a late post. Everyone, I would like to thank you all for your advice. I have read it all and taken it all to heart. I would first like to state that my fiancé has never acted in an aggressive way towards me. He is a very kindhearted individual who would never harm anyone. He has a very low self-esteem and suffers from depression. I’m afraid that the truth would completely destroy him.
I did something very stupid and I regret it every day. I was a fool to allow myself to drink so much, and it was even more foolish to do it with him, a guy I thought I could trust. The roommate has talked to me about it and has filled me in on some of what happened, he wouldn’t tell me everything though. I have asked him to leave and he agreed that it was for the best. He moves into his new place on January 7th.
I have decided not to tell my fiancé even though I really want to. EEK was right in that it is something that I am going to have to live with for the rest of my life. We love each other very much, and we plan to spend the rest of our lives together.
Thank you all very much.
SallyD
All I can say is that I'm pretty glad that you aren't my fiancee.
I pity the foo who ends up with some like you.
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