Gf is incredibly jealous...
My gf of seven months don't trust me. She doesn't want me to go out with friends or family. If don't answer her text quick enough she sends text like "you don't wanna talk to me anymore". It all start when I told that I had sex with 15 girls and she said she was cool with it but I can tell it eats at her on the inside. She think I'm fucking other female because I get text messages from them. But she has my cellphone password and she randomly check my phone. I dont have anything to hide. When she find nothing it seem like she get angry at me. What should I do?
Campbell
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Not to sound mean, but....
I just glanced after "of seven months". Just give her a quick "look, we both know I'm honest. So either you start treating me in a sane manner, or there's the door." This isn't a lifelong relationship. If she can't even make it a full year without being crazy, then is it really worth it?
Firmus
I regularly tell both men and women that dating is designed to fail. (Then why do it?) The answer is to learn about others--the good the bad the ugly, the person's likes, dislikes, goals, wants, etc. At some point in time Ms./Mr. Right will enter our life, although the chance of this happening is slim to none the fewer people we date.
Trust: the way this works is that we give our partner some initial trust just to get the relationship in gear and moving forward. As the relationship matures and if this trust has not been broken then we extend more and more. Over the months and years to follow, if there is no reason to believe that trust has been broken then there is no reason to wonder or worry.
That your girlfriend is controlling and insecure tells me that she is immature. Let her read this thread and see what she has to say.
My recommendation is that it is time to move on if she argues her behavior.
dancingdoc2
Sorry but SHE has failed any possible test already. Drop her.
YOUR errors:
1. KEEP YOUR BIG MOUTH SHUT - the number of girls you've been with is NONE of HER BUSINESS unless you are diseased.
2. NEVER give your cell phone passwords etc to anyone, period.
3. TURN YOUR PHONE OFF when you're with someone. If it is important, a message will be left or they will try again later.
Why do all this? To show that you have some SELF-RESPECT and therefore EXPECT decent treatment from her right from the start. The idea you want to get across is that you are far too great a gentleman to ever be anything less than absolutely trustworthy and that you would never even think of causing her, or any lady, a moment's anxiety.
But this requires you to have firm boundaries of what treatment you will accept from her hands. You are not some lapdog she can kick when she's in a foul mood. As you are a gentleman, so she must be a lady.
GOT IT?
EvilEvilKitten