Do you talk about sex with your friends?
Like genuinely talk about it. Not jokes or bragging but actual real conversations about what you like, what you're figuring out, what confuses you.
I have friends I can talk about literally anything with EXCEPT this. And then I have one friend who will casually drop the most personal detail imaginable over brunch like it's nothing. There's no in between.
Is this a cultural thing? A generational thing? I grew up in a household where this topic simply did not exist so I'm curious how other people navigate it.
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I am 100% the brunch friend lol. I will tell you everything about my sex life over eggs benedict and I genuinely don't understand people who can't talk about it.
But I think it depends on the friendship. Some people just aren't there yet and that's fine. You kind of have to test the waters and see who's open to it.
Guys do NOT talk about this with each other. At least in my experience. We'll joke about it but actually being vulnerable about it? Nah. There's this unspoken thing where you're supposed to already know what you're doing and admitting you don't is like admitting weakness.
It's dumb but it's real.
I have a few that i'm pretty open with two... seems most are very opposed to talking about it a all - straight from cafecito's world :P
I really have to segment my friendship groups when it comes to this topic.
There's one friend I have that I can divulge all details about any sexual topic with, and I've known him 20+ years going back to elementary school. It's such a breath of fresh air to know someone like that. We trust each other with info we'd never share with anyone else.
However when it comes to friends I have via Christian/church-type settings, it's a far more muted topic.
The first time it ever came up was during an anti-porn series that had lots of inaccurate information that I later corrected people on. I'm the token sex-positive person among that crowd and I've been fortunate enough to change a few minds on the subject of sexuality.