Does sex help with cramps?
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I feel a little strange asking these questions because I’m not a young kid and have been married before. I enjoy sex a lot and giving my partners as much pleasure as I can and they wish. I’m a member of the swingers community in the Seattle area attending parties and clubs, just a little background on me.
A friend is planning on coming over tonight and she told me she started her period yesterday. She has no problems with having sex during her period. My plan for the evening is to take a warm bath in my 2 person soaking tub. She has had a very busy weekend in charge of a large business conference, so I was planning on pampering her a bit and relaxing her anyway. I know that a hot bath will always help the muscles relax but my questions are how much sex can help or increase her cramps. I enjoy oral and don’t have a problem performing it while she is on her period if she wants me to do so.
I know endorphins are released during sex with a climax or orgasm but how much will this cover the pain, if any? Does the motion of the penis moving in and out of the vagina help in any way? I heard somewhere and I doubt it’s true but I’ll ask anyway, that male ejaculate can help a woman during her period because of the testosterone and other things in it including protein are absorbed through the vagina?
Any other recommendations I’m open to, she is taking something for the pain but I don’t remember what it is.
Thanks in advance for your help.
TenBall
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Throughout my fecund years I always found sex during my period to be particularly pleasurable. The discomfort of a period usually occurs during the lead in to the flow - perhaps a day or so - with the cramps during the early stages of the flow itself. Many women find that an orgasm during this time relieves cramps and discomfort somewhat. This makes sense in that the contractions of the uterus during orgasm will loosen the lining and promote the flow.
As for the timing, by the end of the second day, she will likely have established full flow and would have been urinating frequently relieving the bloated feeling we often have. In other words, she should be past the most uncomfortable, and painful part of her period and be dealing with the inconvenient part - having to remember to be supplied and change whatever as necessary. I was mostly a cup user but did learn whilst using tampons that they need to be removed a half hour or so before sex. Tampons tend to absorb too much and we need a chance to get moist after removing them. Especially when they are not full. This is one minor reason I preferred a menstrual cup to using tampons.
The way we are designed going into the tub without a tampon is fine and, even, recommended. The inner lips form a seal against water entering into us and this also prevents, mostly, menstrual juices escaping. A tampon string, if not properly tucked, is actually a wick taking the tub water into us. If she is in full flow, standing up from the tub can be colourful.
The endorphins affect men more than women and are not significant in pain relief in this case. Remember that she has been dealing with her periods for quite a while and has probably gone through a few thousand tampons. Those of us who enjoy, or even those just willing, sex during rather look forward to it and do not wish to be taken care of by some man who has never had a cramp!
Have a set of luxurious burgundy towels available for under the activity and her use afterwards and you can surprise her quite pleasantly by going down on her. Followed by whatever and then another trip through the tub.
Brandye
Brandye,
Thank you, I thought I could count on you to provide the answers to my questions.
I'm a giver and the kind of guy that likes to pamper and take care of my friends (guys or gals), lovers or playmates if I can. I understand she has gone through this in the many years before me and will after, when I said take care of her I meant attending to her wants and needs physically, sexually or emotionally whatever they may be.
I knew tampons were good at what they were designed for, but I didn't think about the fact that the vagina needs to get moist again before sexual activities. Other than menstrual juices escaping it there any reason to not "play" in the tub? I know in a pool or hot tub the chlorine can "dry out" the vagina is this also true in a regular pool or shower?
I was planning on having dark towels to place under her and for her to use after getting out of the tub. I will suggest another soak in the tub or a shower after we have sex.
On a different note I see your signature about not wearing cheap bras and I understand most women never get fitted properly. While I was dating my ex-wife I took her to Victoria's Secret because she had never been fitted or had a good bra. Is there a better place to go in the States to get fitted then VS? Do you have yours custom made? If so is there a place in the Seattle area you know of or would suggest?
TenBall