Wife doesn't want sex after I had a major injury... no disabled.
Ok I have a problem and not sure what to do. My wife and I have been togther for almost 11 years, and minus the little disagreements everything is great, well was until about 10 months ago. I was injured at work last year resulting in a life long disability. We never had any sexual problems before, but now we haven't had sex in almost 10 months. I have tried talking to her a couple times, but all I get is no answer. I love my wife but don't know what to do. She says she still loves me, although for the last month and a falf all she does is plqy a game on the computer. Even though it wasn't necessary I rebuilt the computer for her to run a different game that she use to love but stopped all of a sudden. Since I have been unable to work I help around the house as much a I can. We have 2 kids that I help with a lot to try and give her space, but WTH am I to do. Someoe please help.
sc_rebel14
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Disability is not death
We have such laws as anti-discrimination because people with disabilities are treated as though they were less than real people. It is deeply ingrained in much of our society, including your wife. Disabilities of most sorts affect parts of our bodies, and lives, but not others. Mental disabilities are particularly difficult to deal with but most physical injuries can be learned to be dealt with.
First, you see a counselor who specializes in these things to see how well you are dealing with it. Then, you and your wife, with help, see how well you, as a couple, are dealing with it.
It sounds as though you are doing well with it around the house; sometimes her seeing that you are trying to expand your capabilities with volunteer work or other work you can do will hit home and convince her that you are still a person.
Brandye
Thx for the comment Brandye. I actually have been trying to get into a therapist as with this I am having extreme bouts of depression. Currently I am fighting with the insurance company to get into talk with a therapist about all of this. Thx again.
sc_rebel14
Well, depending on what your disability is, you could buy her a sybian as a surprise. It comes with a small bench for a man to sit with his legs apart behind her and you can hold her while she gets pleasured. granted they are about 1400 bucks, it might show her that you still deeply care about pleasing her as much as you did before, despite your injuries.
good luck.
ScarletLace86
There are those who feel/think that a non-working man isn't 'providing' and is therefore 'unworthy'. TOTAL NONSENSE of course but something along this line could be lingering in the back of her mind. Therapy can help - keep fighting to get it. What would you have done had you retired as is usually done? Now that you have effectively retired - do whatever you had planned to do.
EvilEvilKitten