OP: Is Virginity Sacred?

Allowing yourself to move from within and "being" in the moment, that is what you need to "relearn". Not much the physicality of the movement. Thinking of how to move or being afraid of doing it wrong, may actually break the movement. Like: try running down the stairs. Think of which foot to lift or how to lift it and you'll trip over your own feet, while your legs are getting mixed up as if you're tripping over tied up shoelaces.

True, bellydancing is about the same thing; getting in touch with your female essence. Which in itself is not about learning steps or techniques, but about breathing in the rhythm and moving from your core. This may definitely have been of use for me. Though -not to brag- I was considered a natural prior to taking classes :rolleyes::):p

So putting together my posts: I'm not saying that you should simply "jump in" and expect sex to work. There is knowing yourself and your own body. Knowing what you like, trusting yourself and your body, respecting it's limits. And there is getting to know eachother both emotionally and physically prior. So that you know what the other likes and have developed skill in communicating and reading eachothers' bodylanguage. Getting into a flow together and allowing yourself to be. I think that while taking your journey of discovering sexuality, you should allow yourself to enjoy it with every step. At some moment; there comes a time you are ready. And that's certainly not all! There are a lot of first times prior and after first penetrative sex.

RedRoses

Posted: 03 Oct 08:45

Certainly I will explain: following his 'natural go with it movements' he rammed his erect penis right through my vaginal wall into the abdominal cavity. Resulting in great pain to me. We immediately separated and I proceeded to bleed to death - I was 16 at the time. "Drive faster, I'm dying" is NOT something one wants to say or hear during a first date. Slipping in and out of conciousness during the race to the ER, my blue jeans turned red. After an operation the next morning (had to wait for the surgeon to get his 8 hrs sleep) I was fine. (No, I wasn't a virgin at the time.)

But now you know why it is NECESSARY to actually THINK about what you're doing and to PAY ATTENTION.

The "experienced" guy had thrust ABOVE rather than below the cervix.

Got it?

EvilEvilKitten

Posted: 03 Oct 08:45

RR I wasn't trying to say that anyone and everyone can't move. There is an exception to every rule. BUT if you have experience with dancing or even certain physical sports. I have noticed that certain olympic lifts and wrestling moves have a direct carryover in the bedroom. But how many people really trully experience a consistent "practice" with their hips. Belly dancing is very sensual act. Hips moving in a seductive manner.

But you throw average joe blow video gamer and sexually restricted susie will be like two people siezuring on top of each other.

Ducy

Posted: 03 Oct 08:45

EEK, that's horrifying! I had only heard of such injury through very violant rape. That must have been so shocking. This is probably a thing of the past for you, but still; I'm sorry for what happened to you. And I sure hope he learned to be careful!

Ducy, well, if that's the case, I'd encourage all to join such sports :)

RedRoses

Posted: 03 Oct 08:46

Oddly enough the same motion for riding ( English ) is used for riding men.
However, to get a decent 'bounce' you have to pay careful attention to the springs of the bed/sofa/chair/whatever you're using.

Ty, RR - that's exactly why unskilled labor (no matter how much experience he says he has) isn't worth bothering with.

EvilEvilKitten

Posted: 03 Oct 08:46

Ya most people apparantely don't grasp the concept of using bed springs to increase thrusting speed. My partners are always amazed because I'm capable of rabbit speeds lol. Yet I'm just making sure to catch her coming up as I go down. So she's actually doing half the work ;p

I enjoy bouncing while she is on top but she has to be somewhat aware of what she is doing since I don't have some third leg so I can slip out if she goes to far. Honestly I prefer a sliding motion. Faster movement and the pressure of her grinding seems to make her tighter.

Ducy

Posted: 03 Oct 08:47