I would be seeking a repeat performance! There are some deep seated old messages about sex that are speaking to her that need to be overcome. To add to the previous response, there are some physiological factors that could act as causative. Following orgasm these is a resolution phase in males and females. Sexual arousal involves tensing of muscles and engorgement with blood of various tissues, in the genitals, with blood. The inner lips, for instance, blossom and open and usually turn a brighter pink as the clitoris becomes erect. The larger muscles of the pelvic floor similarly become engorged. The resolution stage following orgasm includes relaxation and outflow of blood. If the relaxation or flow of blood is not complete, renewed arousal may occur, even in sleep. She likely had incomplete resolution and her still slightly engorged bits remained in a state of arousal.
There have been times that I have experienced completely satisfactory sex but still have a sense of "not quite satisfaction." I simply wait for my partner to fall asleep, assuming he has been satiated, and do myself. Also, the time that I most enjoy being entered is right after orgasm, usually by oral stimulation. At that time, muscles are relaxed, lubrication is at the maximum, he can slide right in without pumping a few times, it feels wonderful. Then the motion of the penis in me functions like a massage both dissipating the collected blood and further relaxing muscles that have been so tense shortly before. Following this, I am satisfied almost always and he has had a good reception.
Point here is that she is dealing with very normal physiological effects of good sex and certainly should not be embarrassed. Other times, many women have had the experience of awakening in a lather to the point they immediately masturbate. I have even awakened with my right middle and ring fingers already at work.
If she understands that men have erotic dreams, getting erections and even reaching ejaculation she needs to understand that we women are sexual as well and there are very normal physiological and psychological factors that can precipitate the reaction she had. Most of us would love to have that more often! Repeat, Repeat, Repeat! Show her this response.
Brandye
Posted: 23 Sep 09:07
