EEK, I just read your response and became really confused but that statement (which means that I had to read the thread from the beginning to get a gist of what this thread is talking about)
Forgive me for sounding borderline ignorant...or stupid, :( but I always thought that dating and exclusivity were one and the same or that dating inadvertently leads to exclusivity.
Now, you can only imagine how shocked/surprised/upset I became over this weekend. Through my own naiveté, I always believed that love was this one shot K.O thing. My parents portrayed this as such...and then I found out, that my parents did date around (at least one of them) before they decided to becoming my loving married parents that gave life to me. (No more happily ever after fairy tales for me anymore. lol.)
I've never dated around. Never. In fact, call me a chicken, :D but I'm 20. Did not date around during middle or high school, I wasn't attractive then, but I'm quite a looker now. I think what I'm doing now with BF#1 isn't dating, it's an exclusive relationship.
(to me it is, to him, he says that going into our relationship that it is exclusive...although it's questionable because he's had other women before me, but in that defense from high school our eyes had been on each other, again I was a chicken, but other than that, no problem, whether this turns out that we are dating around or if it is exclusive, I'm satisfied now.)
I'm not even certain what dating around means by today's standards
Different culture equals different ideals on what dating should be.
That being said, dating around seems like a good idea, but I know what I want in a man already, always known from day damn one. So, is it an absolute must that people should date around, even if they have an idea of what they want?
sensualGoddess
Posted: 08 Oct 22:26