OP: Blow-job Techniques 101

This is a question for the guys:

I've been doing some more experimenting with my BF while giving him oral recently. I just started exploring the areas under his penis, like his testicles and surrounding area, and the perineum, and the results have been amazing thus far. What surprises me is that my BF doesn't like to be touched with my fingers in any of those areas, but with a tongue it's a totally different response.

I wouldn't mind taking it further and maybe getting closer to his anus or even the anus itself, but am totally not sure whether that's something I should approach or not. My BF is one of those guys who always automatically says no if the mere idea grosses him out or seems uncomfortable, but if I don't ask and just slip it in during sex or foreplay, he really ends up liking it most of the time. I just don't want to overstep any boundaries by going for it. The things I've pushed in the past have been small, and I don't want to totally violate him if it's something he is completely against haha. We've talked about anal play using fingers or a dildo and he totally hated the idea and didn't even want to try it....as a guy, what's your take on anal play with tongue instead of fingers.

Is this something I should ask him about first (sure to get a No!) or should I just start exploring next time and surprise him? As a guy do you enjoy that sort of thing?

katiebug

Posted: 05 Oct 03:10

katiebug, the areas under the penis, (bottom of shaft and perineum) are particularly sensitive for me-as to is the areas around the anus. My current SO does not indulge in this type of stimulation much so what I am about to type is from previous experiences (other GF's) or by my SO.
The times I experienced this form of stimulation (anal)from both previous GF and SO were by surprise. I had always attached a negative connotation to anal play, being a male-but was pleasantly surprised when subjected to it. The first time was during a 3some. I was pleasuring one lady orally whilst receiving a hand/blow job from the other. Anyway, she slipped around from under me and while keeping the hand motion going she slipped (stuck) a well lubed (her natural lube and water based) finger into my anus. This was met with little resistance and as such she continued. The result, well, she then slipped her tongue in and around and I climaxed with a massive smile.

With my SO, we were doing a little "exploration" of each other and as she was very conservative, i thought very little of the light touch at the anus by her finger whilst she was kissing/licking the base of my shaft. (I thought it was merely getting from one spot to another). The shock (and pleasure) experienced when her finger suddenly entered me was great. Again I climaxed with her stimulating the area with her tongue and caressing my penis with her hands.

As such, yes I really do enjoy it and although I had preconceived ideas regarding this "gross" form of stimulation it turned out to be very enjoyable. If he feels very strongly about it then do not push, otherwise, I would say if you are ok trying, do so after a shower or bath together, where you have "washed" him down, this way at least he may not feel the fear of not being "clean" .

learning

Posted: 05 Oct 03:10

What my guy enjoys is for me to take the tip of my tongue starting from his balls and lick my way up to the top of his shaft...and then I do a hard jab to where the cock is deep in my throat...and I leave it there for a couple of seconds...and I make a moaning sound...and he loves the way the moan vibrates all of his pole. If you don't want to make the moaning sound because you are afraid of getting choked...then take your finger tips and rub them gently under his balls...He loves it when its being tickled.:)

SwordSwallower0825

Posted: 05 Oct 03:10

OK I read this in a magazine and it works very well.

Picture a guy's torso and his thighs. Think of his upper thighs with the number 1 on both of them. Now picture the area the area just above and inside his hipbones with the number 2 on both sides. Now picture the area right around where his pubic hair starts with the number 3 on it. When you connect the numbers individually on both sides (starting at 1 on the right side, going up to two on the right side, and ending at three. Repeat on the left side) It should make an M shape.

Start massaging at 1 on both sides. Start with his outer upper thighs. Massage with your fingers and palms very firmly, this muscle is usually the strongest muscle in a man's body. Move to the inner thighs, and get a little more gentle. After that, move to the number 2 on both sides, right above and inside the hip bones. Go REALLY light in this area. It is recommended to alternate between light stroking with the fingers and swirls with your tongue. Then it gets to the number 3, right above where his pubic hair starts. Go very light in this area too, but don't spend too much time here before you get to the blowjob.

girl12

Posted: 05 Oct 03:10

ok. heres a rough step by step guide for you green eyes! everyone is different - my man is really ticklish and i know i can get him to squirm by running my hands down the sides of his torso, but this is what i tend to do.

i tend to move down my boyfriends body, kissing and nibbling his nipples, then back up to his mouth to kiss him.
then running my hands down his sides then down his thighs, just running my fingers over the end of his penis on the way past.
then i gently massage his balls and run my fingers up and down the insides of his thighs and round his perianum where he is very sensitive.
i run my tongue around this ridge of his head - making my tongue quite hard and almost to a point. then i run the point of my tongue up round the head and then i come back down taking his penis into my mouth.
i like to use my hands as well, so i'll use my mouth and my hand in time sucking and licking up and down his shaft.
vary the speed and the pressure, so sometimes go all the way down on him - because my boyfriend isn't massive i can deep throat him easily, and then i come back up to the head giving that attention.
occasionally i leave his penis and take his balls into my mouth or start kissing and nibbling his thighs to really wind him up and then go back to his penis.
try swirling your tongue around in your mouth and be careful with your teeth. as someone else said running the head of the penis around the roof of your mouth can be very nice for him.
its all down to personal preference and you'll soon develop your own technique, but in my advice, whilst you're going down on him look him in the eyes and grab his hand - as long as you want it to be meaningful anyway!
good luck!

bryrw06

Posted: 05 Oct 03:11

I'm the first girl who ever gave my guy head who used her tongue. Honestly I don't see how all the others didn't but he said they just put it in their mouth and did nothing.....*quirks brow*

Anyway, I'm much like Brandye on this. I'll start by kissing the head and running my tongue up and down the shaft. Then I'll move down the penis half way and just start flickering my tongue back and forth on this one spot that I know that drives him crazy...I've tried to 'tongue flick' the little V thing at the head because someone told me it was the most sensitive part of a guy there but it doesn't do anything for my guy...maybe I'm on the wrong side. After that I may take him in my mouth and play around a bit, then take him completely out and blow softly on it. Apparently the hot breath drives some guys crazy.

I personally have no issue with playing with his balls while doing it. Or even sucking on them.

As for anus action...yeah my guy isn't up for that, at least on his end. lol.

Lass

Posted: 05 Oct 03:11

I have just started giving my bf bjs regularly, and I'm coming to have a technique. He likes what I'm doing anyway! My technique is:

1. Start out licking, kissing, and gently caressing his inner thighs and balls
2. Move on to his penis, but start out by licking and kissing it gently
3. Then I take it into my mouth, and I do whatever feels natural. Slowly I work up to taking the whole penis into my mouth and navigating it down the back of my throat. As his breathing increases, I increase my pace and rock my head (and body) back and forth on his shaft. I continue to caress his thighs and GENTLY massage his balls. As I feel his balls get tighter to his body and his breathing increases, I again take it up a notch, going faster and making the grasp of my lips firmer.
4. After he cums, I swallow and "milk" the penis. I usually keep it in my mouth for another 30 seconds - a minute until he's soft.

browneyedgirl

Posted: 05 Oct 03:11

BJ's are the most fun for a guy when...
1) He is standing, she is kneeling.This gives him a sense of being dominant over her. (2) She often looks up at his face when performing. (3) She pays attention to the testicles as well as the penis. (4) She goes slow. A standing BJ should take about 10 minutes. Any longer and he could get tired of standing. (5) Use lots of saliva. Be messy. (6) Tease it. (7) Talk sexy.
(8) She asks for him to cum. (9) She willingly accepts whatever location he wishes to deposit his seed. (10) It he cums on her skin, she plays with it. If he cums in her mouth, she holds it there until he has a chance to see it, then she swallows.

It's not rocket science...just rocket fun.

Mr Mike

Posted: 05 Oct 03:11

I think good oral (for him) starts before you ever go down on him. My friend and I enjoy the 69 position for both our pleasure. I tend to become so focused on pleasing him I forget to stop when he's done. But anyway, I'll start by kneading/rubbing his thighs, softly kissing my way down to his groin area where I'll lick/tease the area all around his penis but never actually touch it. Then when I feel he's wanting more I'll blow my hot breath all along his length, knowing it makes him shiver. Then I take pity on him and give the tiniest kisses along the shaft before I very slowly take the head into my mouth. I don't like rushing anything and he appreciates it greatly. I'm working on learning how to deep throat him and I've just about mastered it, much to his delight. It's only because he's such a good teacher that I've learned so well.

Tarnished_Halo

Posted: 05 Oct 03:11

I would just like to thank Brandye for her advice about placing your thumb at the base of the penis to foreshadow when he is about to ejaculate. I used this technique last night with me "friend with benefits" and it was amazing. You can actually feel a hard pulse and as soon as I did that I took another piece of your advice and put my tongue on the roof of my mouth. All your advice worked great!

now I just need to practice not gagging during deep throat lmao!

xkatex

Posted: 05 Oct 03:11

When I start my kissing his head lightly and then move on making it harder, and the start sucking and licking progressively, he usually goes crazy! Also, when I lick him it different directions and move my mouth clockwise and counter-clockwise, he really gets off.

vet_gc

Posted: 05 Oct 03:11

alright girls, this is one way I know a lot of guys love it.

First you just flick your tongue around the scrotum. Go a little crazy here if you want but not too much, it can be excruciatingly painful if you go a little too far.
And second, lick all the way up the shaft. Take it slow here and tease a little.
Next, just flick your tongue all around the head, this drives me wild, and I've climaxed at this point on more than one occasion.
Finally, you just pop it in. And while it's in your mouth make sure you keep your tongue in constant motion around the head. Personally, I don't believe any thrusting is necessary, as long as your tongue is in constant motion. :D

Mac Andy92

Posted: 05 Oct 03:11

I so enjoy giving my husband BJ's, its so much fun!!

As Samantha on "Sex in the City" said, "they don't call it a job for nothin'"...

Giving a BJ is all about attitude, go in and focus on giving your man the best pleasure he has ever felt. Everytime you do it, it should be better than the last. Don't do the same routine over and over again. Mix it up. Take all the ideas on this post and shuffle them like an iPod. Its very enjoyable to see the pleasure you give to your lover.

I don't understand, some of my married girl friends don't give their husbands blowjobs anymore or ever. I think the penis is a beautiful thing, the feeling of licking it and tonging it, sucking it so so enjoyable. My husband is always in seventh heaven afterwards.

I have a lot of gay friends, and they say they like being sucked like a "Hoover", so I've taken their advice and it does work!!!!!

However you do it, do it coz you enjoy it and you enjoy your lover. Make every second of it the best as if its your last BJ ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sweet Love

Posted: 05 Oct 03:11

This is just my two cents. What really turns me on is having the underside of my dick head licked. That is he best feeling in the world. It is hard not to cum when it is being constantly licked. Give it a try on your guy...

sniperboy

Posted: 05 Oct 03:12

Gargling while deep throating... humming is a distant cousin for those who can't dt yet.

amphette

Posted: 05 Oct 03:37

I start with stroking by hand from outside the underwear. There's some good sensation to be had from the fabric to get things started. Then once they're off and I've done a little more gentle stroking by hand, I do some soft kissing up and down the vein on the underside, with just a little bit of suction from my lips on the skin. When I make it to the tip, before I take it in, I rub my lips around the corona a little too. Then once I've taken it in and I want to escalate things a little, I start pumping the shaft with one hand, and give a very gentle tickle with the fingers of other hand to the scrotum and around the base of the shaft. All three of those sensations all at once-mouth, pumping, and the gentle tickle-work really well.

lnt1103

Posted: 05 Oct 03:37

Lick with the tip of your tongue from the base of his dick all the way up the "vein" portion in the middle. Then take your tongue and swirl around the head and grasp the balls with your other hand. slowly stroke his dick while licking the head lightly. eventually take the rest of it in your mouth and my trick is to use lots of tongue! The wetter your mouth is the faster he will cum.

I put a cough drop in my mouth once... made my mouth cold while sucking his dick.. drove him crazy! I love doing it to him when he has been a bad boy!

smoothboi

Posted: 05 Oct 03:37

well to be honest i don't think there is a right or wrong way on performing a blow job. each time it can be different. i think it all depends on the female.. see if a female is just doing it to return the favor, than she may not be all into it in the beginning anyways! as for me, i love pleasing my husband. its something i enjoy. i love chewing on ice before i actually perform. i play and tease him with the ice for a bit, until finally he cant wait any longer. and thats when i go in for the kill. the fact that my entire mouth is cold, drives him crazy. and the way i suck on him adds to the sensation too. but what blows his mind, is while he is cumming, i suck and swallow it as if i were drinking soda through straw. the type of orgasm he gets is incredible.

LENI azurryth

Posted: 05 Oct 03:37