OP: How do you feel about Anal Sex?

I had my first experience with anal two nights ago with my girlfriend. My girlfriend was feeling kinky and asked if I wanted to try anal. She had never done it before, and neither had I, so I was somewhat scared of hurting her. We took it slow, and it was very tight at first(note I kept asking her if it hurt at all) but after getting into it a little, she relaxed, and it became quite amazing. It didn't hurt her at all, and she said she enjoyed it some what, not as much as vaginal intercourse, but she still enjoyed it. We plan to explore it further and try to make it more enjoyable for her. Im all for anal!

El Capitan

Posted: 05 Oct 01:20

I'm a girl who likes anal sex. While the pain was prohibitive my first few attempts, with a little practice and a whole lot of lube, I now look forward to it regularly. I find that being highly aroused and close to orgasm before insertion definitely helps ease the way. Even now, the initial entry is painful, but so so worth it once I warm up. Occasionally, I've begun to orgasm from it alone. I usually need a week or so to recover between anal sessions due to sphincter soreness and... er... difficulties in the bathroom for a couple days afterwards but my bf is very large and I like harder pumping so the latter problem may not be typical.

My bf is always eager to be on the receiving end of anal play but usually balks in discomfort once any penetration takes place. I generally just stick with my tongue in that area, though I love the idea of getting deeper penetration.

The moral of my story is: the butt is fun. It opens up a lot of doors as far as variety and intimacy. I understand that it's certainly not for some. Nevertheless, beyond actual anal penetration, I think it's important to be able to share every part of yourself with your partner, without guilt or shame or embarrassment.

lottedixon

Posted: 05 Oct 01:20

My husband likes it too. I had a hard time getting over my fear of anal. At times I would agree just to please my husband. I really wasn't into it.

A couple of years ago, my husband and I started same room swapping with two couples. Things quickly went from making out with other people to full on sex. With the men's encouragement I even began to have experiences with the other wives and found that I really enjoyed lesbian sex. Two years later my husband and I are still fully committed to each other, but still enjoy frequent swinging.

It was during one of these swing sessions that I came to appreciate and love anal sex. I was making it with one of the other men (pretty hot and heavy). My husband came over and asked if he could go into the backdoor at the same time. I agreed. He used plenty of lube and I got my first "D.P.". I was so turned on having two guys inside of me. I have loved anal since that day. I attribute my new found love of anal to two things:

1. For me personally, the feeling of being filled by two men and the vaginal stimulation that goes with the anal penetration is exquisite. Even when my husband and I have anal alone, I use a dildo or vibrator to get vaginal stimulation. Before, I did not pay attention to that area and anal was not nearly as fun.

2. I opened up my inner slut. Swinging helped me embrace my inner slut where before I had tried to repress it and be a proper wife. Anal is taboo by its very nature. Opening up to a wild new sex life and accepting how much I enjoyed sleeping with other people really helped me accept other new things like anal. Of course swinging is not for anyone. But I believe it helps to really get into whatever makes you hot. Swinging, role-play, slutty-dressing, whatever.

leggyho

Posted: 05 Oct 01:20

Hubby loves it. But he only gets it on the most special of occasions or if I really need something. Makes a great bribe if it works. Which is my problem. It is so hard for me to get into it. I have had so many more horrible and painful times then good. I now would like to enjoy it but it still doesn't always work out. The moment I know its going to happen I freeze up and wait for the pain.

He has now thought that I should get to just learn to like it. So he has used his finger and just recently bought a very small butt plug which he has used a couple of times and I don't mind it.

He is very good at remembering and there have been a few times that I have truly loved it. Sooooooo its the ongoing goal to achieve enjoyment for us both. I always feel bad when it hurts and I can't continue. Poor guy.

Tessie

Posted: 05 Oct 01:21

After reading this thread last night I found myself turned on by the thought of anal, which was surprising. Well, last night while masturbating I wet a finger and inserted- wow, I really liked it, it was very strange but also good. It hurt a little at times but when I relaxed more it felt better, very soon I had an amazing orgasm, but it felt a little strange when I came- like I needed to pee, but it made a big difference to my orgasm.

I have fingered my gf anally before (just stumbled across her anus and started playing and before I know I was in). She evidently liked it and thus a few other times I have gently pushed a finger in. Although I highly doubt I will be having anal sex anytime soon.

d.p.

Posted: 05 Oct 01:21

I never thought i'd like it but i kinda do. I have to be really horny though and in the right mood...

When I am, I really like it. I use to feel guilty about it and went like 3 years without much anal stimulation, but just recently i've been getting so horny (especially during my period) and so i've rekindled my love of it! To the point where I bought a new dildo, and have started to use my old one for anal use only. Feels just like a penis, and it turns me on imagining someone watching me. Seeing as though I don't have a boyfriend, I don't have much choice but to resort to toys! but hey I have a lot of fun!

aussie_gal

Posted: 05 Oct 01:21

my husband and i first tried Anal Sex 15 yrs ago. It first hurt real bad.. but over the years of us trying we have come to be wiser in Anal sex.. Its best position is in a relaxed state of mind.. Don't just rush into anal sex have fun first, kiss all over have your man give oral while he plays with your bum.. Use a lot of lube and when you think you have to much.. use more..But please remember what hand goes into the bum does NOT go in the vagina.. he can use a latex glove to stimulate your bum.. Use one finger first ( remember guys go slow this area is delicate, check your finger nails also don't want to hurt her.) stimulate the anal area real good with one finger, when you can get one whole finger all in use your thumb to stimulate her, when you KNOW she's relaxed you can try two fingers, use a lot more lube at this time, stimulate her more with the two fingers.. listen to her body it will tell you if she is enjoying it or not.. Ladies RELAX, if you need to use a dildo on your self to stimulate your clit to keep relaxed, do so.. Be careful guys if your DOING RIGHT you may make her cum right now.. thats OK there will be a next time.. but if not continue with the finger job.. IF she is ready, insert the tip of your penis DON'T PUSH YET... let her guide you in.. Take off the glove and stimulate her clit, if you didn't use a glove use the other hand.. once you are in, go slow very slow.. use more lube.. Her body will tell you if she is enjoying it or not if not don't push it!!! let her relax, whisper something in her ear..
this can be a very wonderful experience or a bad one it all depends on if you are relaxed and careful.. Ladies if you not ready for it DON'T DO IT!!!! You need to be ready for it to have Anal Sex.. Guys always use a condom... Enjoy!!!

anonymous

Posted: 05 Oct 01:22

:D I was really apprehensive about anal sex for the first 10 years of my marriage, granted once in a blue moon I'd do it bc it was something my hubby really wanted but never really got into it, until recently that is. Over the last 9 months my way of thinking has changed 180 degrees!!!!!!! I enjoy anal sex VERY much and I also enjoy how much it turns him on seeing me so hot and horny and turned on!!!!! It used to be that he was the one who asked for it now I beg him for it!!!:) :D :D

ducky71j

Posted: 05 Oct 01:22

I tried anal sex once with an ex, and never wanted it again, it hurt, and it was just awful. Then my boyfriend asked if he could try, I said okay. We had some hard sex, so his penis was lubed with my wetness, we got some lotion, put it on both of us. He entered my VERY slowly and not very far, and I tensed up, asked him to stop. We went back to regular sex, then he said to let him try again. He again put it in very slowly, and it didn't hurt...at all. It was like everything totally relaxed. It felt strange at first, but I found that the more you do it, the more you can actually control your sphincter to how fast and deep he goes, AND I have orgasms just as hard as when I'm having regular sex.

tiggerules

Posted: 05 Oct 01:22

at first i didn't like it, but over the years, i love getting it.

april92286

Posted: 05 Oct 01:22

Way late in the day here, this post seems to have started about 3 years ago... but I just found this site and forum and just had to put my 2 cents in...

I actually tried anal sex with my first husband about 13 years ago. It hurt before he even penetrated and I said NO... never again... don't even think about it.

My husband now has been with me for about 7 years. It's probably been about 6 years that he's been stimulating me anally during sex, using his fingers and such while we're having sex. I wasn't sure at first. It didn't hurt, but afterward I just wasn't sure morally if it was right. I kept thinking it's got to be wrong to be enjoying this attention to my butt. BUT, I couldn't stop. I really enjoyed it. And it actually helped me achieve my first REAL orgasm. Once that happens, you can't go back to settling for less.

It was about 2 weeks ago, we were in the heat of passion and I was feeling particularly frisky, extremely uninhibited, and just so happened to be on my period. So I'm giving him a blowjob and he's playing with my butt, and I asked him, have you ever thought of putting this there? Yeah, he thought about it, but only if I was game. I was game. I guess years of finger play helped, and a load of lube, because it didn't hurt at all! We haven't done it again. Just finger play. I think it's something I'd like to save for special occasions to help keep the sex life exciting. Every time would become too routine, and I like variety! But anal sex is definitely a go for me.

I'd also like to say that the other major difference between husband 1 and husband 2 is the trust issue. I trust my husband now more than words can say, and I know, deep down in my bones, that he would never hurt me, would stop if I told him to, and would never take my morally wrong feelings and hold them against me. So I tend to feel much more comfortable exploring new regions with him.

suzysviews

Posted: 05 Oct 01:22

Ok....a few notes here:

1) NEVER and i mean NEVER take your penis from the anus and put it back in the vagina without cleaning off your penis or changing rubbers.u can give her a UTI.

2) LUBE IS CRUCIAL! While body fluids may be good initially, there is NO natural lubrication in the anus and so after a few minutes, the cock (or rubber) will quickly begin to irritate the sphincter. Use KY, or that new LIQUID KY or WET or any other kind of water soluble lubricant!

3) If you enjoy anal initially, the next time u should get a fleet enema and quickly clean out your lower bowels (no one likes the look or odor of feces during sex).

4) Let the person "bottoming" set the pace. Guys, lay on your back and let him/her lower themselves on your penis and get used to the penetration.

5) Most women have orgasms during anal because the man is grinding his groin against her clitoris.....not from the penetration alone.

As a gay man who LOVE giving and receiving ANAL, if you want more info, feel free to email me!

Rawbob

Posted: 05 Oct 01:22

There have been a couple times I've been willing to test the waters.... Admittedly with some alcohol in my system, but I do find it a rather interesting idea even when I'm sober. There was only 1 time when I think I was relaxed & ready enough for him to really penetrate, but it was early in our relationship & I didn't express my desire verbally (I think he was worried it was a but "much"). A few times since then, we've gotten close again -- usually after he gives me a full body massage, starting with me on my back & sometimes fondling/sucking his penis, ending with him kneading & spreading my butt cheeks.... I have less inhibitions about this than I do the butt plug! (Is that weird?)

Maribelle

Posted: 05 Oct 01:22

Hello everyone! Just signed up this morning and what a thread to make my first post!
I got here by doing an *anal sex* search because my husband and I wanted to start having anal sex again. We’ve been together for 17 years and used to do once in awhile but decided to spice it up a bit and do it a little more often.
I was horrified to read about the hemorrhoids issue and so relieved when that was cleared up!
I don’t have much advice but I have a few comments to make.
Yes, the receiver has to be in control. I don’t think that’s a dominant thing, it will just work much better for the two of you. You wouldn’t put yourself in that position if you didn’t want to try it.
Yes, it works A LOT better when the woman is so turned on that her rectum has relaxed and she isn’t tense. We do it as a finishing act and I masturbate while he’s doing his thing and the orgasms there are unbelievable!
Yes, too much lube is just enough. Don’t be embarrassed to ask him to stop and add more or just to stop and tell him to spit on it because water based lubes dry out as you go.
Yes, try different lubes. We used to use KY, it’s thick and we didn’t think of buying anything else. Then he brought home some O’My and that was the same. I bought some O’My with hemp and a bunch of other sex-enhancing ingredients and boy did my behind burn afterwards! I got a free sample from Astroglide and WOW did that ever do the trick. We didn’t use very much, stayed slippery and clean up was much easier.
I also read somewhere that the rectum itself does not hold any large amounts of feces. It’s a passage way from your colon to your anus. There are trace amounts of it but nothing to be scared of!
Some say an enema is a good idea before anal play but I personally think an enema is a lot of work!
Pushing out like you’re having a bowel movement seems to help with insertion. Don’t be embarrassed either if you fart a little…at this point in the sex act, there’s nothing to be shy about!
Just say *excuse me, honey*!

browneyes67

Posted: 05 Oct 01:23

I have the exact same feelings. I've tried it once, and we did use a lot of lubricant and time, it still hurt a little and felt like I had to go in the most unpleasant way. (Even though I'd gone before we started to have sex). It was all I could think about.

Neither of us really enjoyed it, so it worked out okay. Though when on the brink of orgasm, my boyfriend will apply light pressure with a finger and I swear the orgasm is ten times intense. Im not sure why.

Buffy_Lynn

Posted: 05 Oct 01:23

Can we get some sort of clarification to the anal sex and hemorrhoid issue (and other effects)? When I searched for information on this I read was that anal sex does not CAUSE hemorrhoids, but it can exacerbate EXISTING ones. Also the presence of hemorrhoids is so common in the population anyway, some say up to 50%, so hemorrhoids can be very common anyway.. Is there a link to an official study or something to give clarification?
I also want clarification on any other alleged effects like “a loose anus” because I am really just trying to inform myself and one moment I am hearing one thing and the other moment I am hearing the opposite, each side making it sound like hard fact and nothing linked to a scientific paper, or study or anything…can someone give me hard proven facts please, this is not fair.

Finally I will just say that anal sex, if done properly should not hurt, even for the first time, and the receiver should always dictate and be in control

BabyBlue

Posted: 05 Oct 01:23

I never expected to be addressing this again. The old-timers are fully aware of my medical and personal opinions. Str8, however, needs some education. The strongest muscles that are involved in a female orgasm are the anal sphincters. Some anal play causes greater tension in them and both shortens the time for climax and greatly enhances the power of the orgasm.

Some women are totally against having their anus played with and, obviously, some men are not willing. That is no reason to declare the rest of us gross. I stand with my earlier position that no penis shall ever penetrate my behind but if those of you who are into it want to I simply recommend lots of lube and condoms every time.

Brandye

Posted: 05 Oct 01:23

Wow, Brandye! You know your stuff! I am impressed! It's nice to see someone offering good, sound advice here! From a bacteria stand point, you have it right on! Anal sex is more about risk than people think. I can't even begin to describe the bacteria that reside in the anus/rectum just waiting for a free-for-all in a penis or in a small superficial wound in the rectum!.....let alone the damage that can be done to the rectum of the female. I think it can be enjoyable, but needs to be done VERY carefully.

Dawn80

Posted: 05 Oct 02:17