OP: How do you feel about Anal Sex?

Hi everyone,
my husband wanted to try anal just because its something new. So I have my gf come over and she don't mind doing anal and that was his first lol.. Later on, hubby and i were just talking about it and it kind of turned me on so we tried it and i was advised to take it slow, using a finger first, (making sure my butt is clean) and were in the shower so it wont be messy just case and it turned out to be ok and now i like it but i prefer having a dildo in the other hole and him anal. I guess i trust him soo much lol

DP101

Posted: 05 Oct 02:22

Personally, i am still undecided about anal. I have tried it several times with my husband. On some occasions it's great. But on others I either have a **bathroom problem :(** or it hurts too bad, no matter how much lubrication there is, etc.
I haven't come up with a reason as to why it hurts so bad at times and not at others when the circumstances in each situation are practically the same. But I do hope that I can learn to get it under control somehow...so that it can better be enjoyed by both of us.

I completely agree with the above statement that partners should have safe words. It's very important that any sexual experience be pleasant and enjoyable without someone getting hurt because the other person does not know to stop.

Nom Noms

Posted: 05 Oct 02:22

Hi Nom Noms,
Congratulations on your great experiences! But sorry to hear you've also experienced pain. First rule: always stop when it hurts. Respect your own body and listen to what it's trying to tell you.

The reason why it sometimes works and sometimes doesn't, could very well have to do with the subtle complexity of the anus. It's the place where the conscious and unconscious meets.

Coincidentally, I'm currently reading "Anal pleasure & health" by Jack Morin, PH.D, who's sometimes nicknamed "Dr. Anal". I'm about half way through, but think this may be exactly what you're looking for :) It describes how to really tune in and get in touch with your anus. As the title says; it's a guide to both anal pleasure and health, that according to Morin do not exclude each other at all. As he puts it: "a person who desires maximum anal enjoyment should follow virtually the same steps as anyone who seeks optimal anal wellness" More specifically it guides towards these objectives, as described in the introduction of the book:

-deepening awareness of the anal area and it's functioning
-total elimination of anal pain
-reduction of muscular tension
-replacing negative feelings and attitudes towards the anus and rectum with positive ones.

It contains information on the physiology, psychology, sociology, etc. It's meant to experience, not just to read, as each chapter contains exercises to explore yourself. I must say that even though I considered myself rather well informed before I started reading, I've certainly learned even more by now. And there's still half a book to go :) By the time I'm finished with it, I may post a more complete review.

RedRoses

Posted: 05 Oct 02:23

Thank you :) I read your post and it actually really helps me to understand a few things that I did not always pay attention to or think about. There is a lot of information that I think I can put to good use.

Nom Noms

Posted: 05 Oct 02:23

Ok so I am a lesbian (or bi) and have had both toy's and penises in my ass, both feel great but I do prefer a strap-on as my gf can go for longer period's of time as it don't cum so for me a strap-on is lot's better.A penis is great fun but does not last long

Posted: 15 Mar 01:20

You know, it's a controversial issue. It has both sides of a coin. On the one hand, I've tried it. And you know, I really liked it then. It was such a strange feeling, actually. It was so tiny and nice. But on the other hand, this hole isn't supposed to be plugged smth in. I don't think it's healthy, but psychologists say that whatever you do with your sex should bring pleasure. So, it doesn't really matter what you do. Pleasure really matters here. Tbh, I'm really grateful to the girls from https://www.citybutterflies.com/location/mayfair/ , who've helped me try it. But if I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't do it here. I'm actually afraid to tear smth there.

Posted: 04 Jul 12:18

I'm 100% agree.

Posted: 17 Sep 17:11