OP: How do you feel about Anal Sex?

I prefer anal to vaginal and yes I'm female. some like it a lot more than others :D

xoxo2

Posted: 05 Oct 02:17

I guess I'm crazy too! I enjoy anal ~ but only in stages after foreplay and
a little intercourse. It adds a lot to the end. It's not something to be
rushed into. My husband is always patient and it's usually my choice. :cool:

moreplease

Posted: 05 Oct 02:17

I'm not sure why none of the regulars are responding, so I'll offer what I've found. I've been doing a lot of research on this subject lately.

Anal sex can be very destructive, even rupturing the rectum. As well, tissue can be torn inside and visible skin tearing or abrasions may occur on the outside. Interior tears, or fissures can be difficult to heal and may even become infected.

There are more concerns that you may also want to think about, but tears are probably the most relevant in this context. My own advice would be to forego anal sex in favor of something else. Perhaps you could suggest other activities in exchange for your husband calling your bluff.

Blink

Posted: 05 Oct 02:17

DID IT! Just kind of combined everyone's advice. Made sure everything was clean, took the enema early in the day. Ran to adult bookstore (another first for me) got some numby stuff and astro glide. My husband was very patient, when he thought i was ready he entered my very slowly, little by little and yes it hurt. Boy did it hurt. After a few minutes the pain really did ease up and when i relaxed I actually started to kinda enjoy it. The key really was to get relaxed. This is something we'll definitely do again. Besides, the big dopey grin my husband is still wearing was so worth it. :D

dixie chick

Posted: 05 Oct 02:18

First off I'd like to say that this forum is the best one I've found on the net. The diversity of the members opinions as well as their experiences, is uplifting and very much welcoming.

For myself, this is my first post, but not before I've read many threads in many different areas of this site.

I've come from a different sort of experience, which I know many in the world have had the unfortunate experience of being raped. First was when I was a child, 7 years old, and was also my unfortunate experience of obvious non-consenting anal sex. No one has to tell me about pain. I was 18 when I finally lost my virginity on my own accord (vaginal intercourse) however it left a lot to be desired. At 21 I was raped again. At 24 I married, and had my first child. Sex just hasn't been a thing I was 'into'. I'm sure a lot can understand why.
However, with a lot of work, and lot of understanding of myself, and with a lot of masturbation I've learned how to enjoy and even desire sexual contact. My husband has a very large penis, and many women may envy me, but it has it's definite downsides being that way. Even vaginal sex has proven to be painful if he thrusts in too deep.
On numerous occasions we have attempted anal sex. I trust him completely and want to be able to share with him something I have never shared willingly with anyone else. I feel in doing the act and allowing him this, that it will help me overcome what was so brutally done to me.
When he first mentioned it, I had the same reaction as others here 'Let me do it to you first and let you feel what it's like!' To my almost horror, he agreed. So out came the strap-on, and I gave it to him. He didn't only like it, he loved it! So be careful girls, because you best be prepared to give it if he agrees, if that's going to be your tactic for rebuttal on this subject. It backfired for me!
However, it made me wonder what it felt like.
So we've tried, and yes the position of me being on top having control, lowering myself down onto him is the best position. He lays there patiently while I work my way onto his hardness. But his size is a major fear of mine. I only get maybe 1/4 way on if that, and have to back off.
In my journey for self healing, I wanted to have a man with a much smaller penis size, and found a very capable and willing participant. My husband also is very supportive of this. I find the 'other man' to be much more a sexual candidate for the 'vaginal deep penetration' positions I cannot enjoy with my husband due to his size. Between the two I get the best of both worlds, because what I can't have with one, I can with the other. No we do not have 3 some sex together.
Now I want to try anal sex with the 'other man' as I seem to think his penis size is much more suitable for my anus as opposed to my husband's monster. This other guy has tried anal sex before with his x-wife and wasn't much into the act himself.
My question being, size difference matter? I cannot fathom my husband's penis being inside my anus, honestly, at times it's even too much for my vagina. Is there a different take or instruction on the larger end penis sizes, or put one into more danger of perhaps injury or damage? Neither partner is aggressive, so I know the patience will be there on either party, I just want so badly for a successful experience. The lube is always on hand and in plentiful quantities, as is the foreplay and slowness. I just really am at a roadblock with the size (length and girth) of my husband's size and find it frightening and would like some advice for overcoming that if possible, or if it would be recommended to just not go there at all considering the size/girth?

HeavenSeeker

Posted: 05 Oct 02:18

Reading through the posts I've noticed quite a few women saying that anal is a great alternative when they're menstruating - I find this bizarre as if you and your partner are happy with practicing anal sex then why go prudish about vaginal intercourse when menstruating?

Me and my BF both enjoy making love when I'm menstruating - I get hyper sensitive and horny as hell during that time and chatting to my close mates about it they said they did too. We've had some really intense sex during this time..

I realize a lot of guys feel squeamish about this but the more I thought about it the more I didn't get it - so I just came straight out with my thoughts to my BF one day and said "ok so you don't mind the potential messiness etc involved with anal but you get shy about a bit of blood - what's that about?" and when he thought about it he agreed and we tried it and haven't looked back since :)

In fact instead of thinking of it as "the curse" it's now become just another part of our sex lives..lol

Obviously it's all about what your both comfortable with but why rule it out? Next time your heading that way cos your menstruating..maybe give it a thought..and as with everything - hygiene and protection is a must! On that note I've noticed something quite cool happens when I get really turned on, my natural lubricant seems to take over and stops the other fluid temporarily anyway so it actually isn't as messy as you think it'll be :)

Be really interested to hear thoughts of other couples that have sex during menstruation too!

hsf

Posted: 05 Oct 02:18

I love to receive anal sex. It is my favorite activity! When the guy has a long penis and slides all the way in it feels great. I get an instant hard-on when it rubes my prostate.

shaved bi

Posted: 05 Oct 02:18

Well there are definitely some of us girls who do like anal also. Personally, it just goes along with sex. If i'm having sex, there is going to be some kind of anal stimulation. Now the reason most chicks don't dig anal is cuz they're too scared, yes i've had bad moments too, the trick is to just allow it (if it's something you want to try and are into, don't ever force anyone to do anything they aren't comfy with). go with the flow, you just might find out that you like it, a lot!!!

Ephemera

Posted: 05 Oct 02:18

While me and my bf were having sex, doing it doggie style he tried to get me to do anal but I wouldn't give in, and told him to stop trying to poke around the danger zone. I just don't picture myself doing that, its exit only for me lol.

FoxyLady

Posted: 05 Oct 02:18

Be certain of the std thing. Be certain she is using birth control either a pill or spermicide in case any semen leaks to the vaginal area. Worse thing w/skipping condoms (beyond the std) is hygiene. Make certain after anal not to come in contact w/the vag. area due to cross contamination. Be certain you void and wash really well afterwards to limit your chance for infection.

sera300

Posted: 05 Oct 02:18

I like it as well.. I used to not be able to do it b/c it hurt to bad but when i met the mr. right we tried it a few times at first and now as long as we take it slow it is GREAT.... ur not the only one who enjoys it trust me lol there are some ppl out there though that will prob. say they dont but either they are embarrassed to admit it or they just dont realize how good it feels lol...:D

babygurl1807

Posted: 05 Oct 02:18

Love it...

1. Lube!!
2. manual stimulation first, it's a must!!
3. Get it in Gently!! Very important not to force it or IT WILL HURT BAD!!!
4. Extremely slow!!! until you and your partner are comfortable
5. Again lube, very important!

SharpestThing

Posted: 05 Oct 02:19

i thought when me and my man first tried it i would never do it again now i just have to have it

lookingtoplease

Posted: 05 Oct 02:19

It is certainly part of my repertoire. It's funny because a lot of guys assume that since it's a taboo subject in normal circles, that women aren't willing to try it. but if you both agree and you are wet (sometimes extra lube is needed - only sometimes!) and he has fingered you there first it makes it so much easier to open up to the experience. I think the guys get off on it, because your butt cavity is so much tighter than your vagina (especially if you have had kids). So I am an "yes" to enjoying anal.

rubyrose

Posted: 05 Oct 02:19

I enjoy anal very much and have every since our wedding night over 21 years ago. I'm also glad that I can have some of my strongest climaxes doing it. Thought I was odd till I met other woman that can achieve orgasm that way.

michelleh1

Posted: 05 Oct 02:19

have never done it. my husband recently has taken to fingering me back there. at first it was something i tolerated because it turned him on in a big way- now i love it! :D we just purchased several plugs of various sizes and so far i'm really enjoying it, especially when we are engaged in vaginal intercourse. i'm lucky my husband isn't in a big rush to do the deed. i think he's enjoying building up to it. he knows i've never done it, and i think he wants to make it as pleasurable as possible for me. so far has been a very erotic experience. so much good info in these posts!

dixie chick

Posted: 05 Oct 02:19

You know it's funny you should ask why it's such a turn on for guys. I really think it has to do with it starting out being such a "TABOO" But I think once a guy can master the skill of doing it right, and a woman can finally see what mind blowing orgasms they can get that way, the wilder the sex becomes >;-) and if your as big as I am it's hard to find any woman that can handle it, so when you do... WOW, Thats AWSOME! My last lover bragged a little early about how good she could cum that way, and we tried it one time, she got very excited about getting to that state of arousal and was a little fast about getting on top, anyway LONG story short, she did have multiples but we couldn't have sex for a week after that, and we never did it like that again, she was just to afraid of getting that pain back. I told her you have to take it a little slower til you get really use to it. Remember guys to cover your tool when doing anal, LOL

No1Norcaltom

Posted: 05 Oct 02:19

I like it. It feels dirty and really turns me on.
I also agree that many girls say they don't like it even before trying because they are too scared, it seems disgusting and so on. In reality, they just don't know what it's like and probably do not have enough trust in their partners or themselves.

Laika

Posted: 05 Oct 02:20